When a survey ends even before its starting!

“There was a time when women social activists asked men to stand up for their rights. But, this time, we will do it by ourselves…I am focusing on women to be independent to fight for themselves.” – Malala Yousafzai

‘The most prominent citizen’ of Pakistan, born in 1997 in Mingora in Khyber Pakhtunkhwa raised a stentorian voice against the women inequality in her teenage. Malala is one of the most influential personality according to Time Magazine and known for human rights advocacy, especially the education of women and children. She won the Nobel Peace Prize along with Kailash Satyarthi in 2014, makes her the youngest Nobel Prize laureate in history. Malala stands up for women’s rights and education and inspired thousands and thousands of women around the world to fight for their rights. The education system must be equal for both, the boys and girls, according to her. Undoubtedly, she influenced millions of people with her noble voice and made the world a better place to live, especially for women.

From her neighbor country, Manasi Pradhan, an Indian woman had the same dream like Malala that she would fight for women’s rights and protest against the domestic violence faced by women around her area. Her dream was to give them the respect and honor they deserve in the society and she did exactly in real life. She indeed lived her dream. She runs a movement called, ‘Honour for Women National Campaign’ to end violence against women in India. She is the founder of three organizations, Nirbhaya Vahini, Nirbhaya Samaroh and OYSS Women. The prime motive of three of them is to help the girls in achieving higher education and to abolish the domestic violence against them. Her life story is an inspiration to millions of girls that a single woman alone, can change the whole society.

Similarly these two Asian women, there are a lot of activists who endeavored for the same around the globe. Simone de Beauvoir, Gloria Steinem, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, and Roxane Gay are some of the wide known faces who actually provoked the idea of modern feminism.

Now what modern feminism really is? and what do the feminists’ efforts mean to the girls? I wanted to know the answers to these questions from the young women living in the rural area of the country, specifically of the Punjab state.


That’s it!!!… My first survey of life ended there miserably. 😢

I wanted to do a complete professional survey on the rural girls aged 18-23 around me but everything messed up in an unwanted way. So, how this happened?

Read further – 😉……………………….

I started this from a neighbor girl. I told her everything about it, the questions, the subject, and stuff. She impressed and said she will definitely take part. After that, I was also in touch with my girls students, who were three in total. I repeated everything to them. After reading my whole text about the survey thingy, first, they shot some excuses that they can’t come because of some restrictions and class time, but finally, I convinced them for the survey and they said that they will come.

I prepared everything according to myself to manage the data. It took me two days to do this. When everything has done, it’s time to start out the survey. Butt………………………….

On the first day of the survey, no one actually came or called or picked up my call!!….. I had four participants in total, but none was interested actually. I realized this later!

Okay, after that I didn’t lose hope and this tried to convince a completely strange lady. I’m too shy with girls, but at that time, I collected enough confidence so I could talk to her clearly. There was of course some fumbling in the very first line, but it was fine later and anyone can understand my words. Okay, I started with the introduction about the survey and explained the main scope of the survey. After that her reaction, OMG her reaction!!!…… You know about her reaction!!??…..😱😱

She must be thinking that I’m some kind of rapists and talking about the procedure of rape. She only said one sentence – Look, I do a job so……………. After that, she ran away to the other side so quickly and thanked God when she reached there (I bet). I didn’t expect that but I knew that the area I’m living in, the girls have a too much reserved nature that they don’t say a Hi to a stranger. After this experience, I realized that no survey can be done here, plus I also got the answers to all of the questions related to the survey. The rural area girls don’t even know the meaning of Feminism. It was expected.

I shut down the survey after that and got busy in some other things. This post was actually draft and it was intended for the complete observation of the survey. I thought to delete this draft, but it was not a good idea, so I wrote everything down what actually had happened, so you people could read about some more experiences of my life.

So, it happened with me a couple of months ago. What do you think should you try to do a survey on your own or WOULD you like to do a survey like that?😜

Let me know in the comments!

Thanks for reading!

B. M.

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