This is so simple. You do not need to search. You do not need to quest. You do not enter the phrases like ‘how to maintain the relationship’ in your Google bar. You do not need to remind the rules. You do not need to mix it with artificiality. You do not need to change anything.
Many people think that they can fully control their partner in every aspect as they own them. But it isn’t true. Relationship doesn’t mean to own each other’s individual liberty.
“Superficial respect” means, respect from outside. Suppose you respect a man superficially. When you are in person with him, you regard him and honor him a lot. But you criticize him on his back. You backbite about him and possibly you bitch him.
I know that a lot of people have an objection to this. But at least for me, It was another reason for my own breakup as explained previously.
Every time you compare yourself with the other person, you become unsatisfied with yourself and it thrusts the hate with yourself. Probably it is unsurprising that many lovers also do compare each other in the relationship. They compare hobbies, interests, thinking, thoughts, choices and a lot more.