
“Superficial respect” means, respect from outside. Suppose you respect a man superficially. When you are in person with him, you regard him and honor him a lot. But you criticize him on his back. You backbite about him and possibly you bitch him.
Every time you compare yourself with the other person, you become unsatisfied with yourself and it thrusts the hate with yourself. Probably it is unsurprising that many lovers also do compare each other in the relationship. They compare hobbies, interests, thinking, thoughts, choices and a lot more.